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pamper herself by going out on the town, to the spa, getting her hair done,
and new clothes. And she told me that the best thing that could have ever
happened was to bump into him looking like a Fox. That day she was hot
and she knew it. As a matter of fact when she saw him at the elevator it was
a showdown - her chance to strut her stuff. They locked eyes, he checked
her out, and when she did the cat walk straight towards him while being
happy like she just won a million bucks, he suddenly lost his confidence
[BOOM].
He tried to make small talk and she thought she d stop but she looked down
and saw that her legs kept walking. She walked away with her power and he
was left there drooling.
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P.S. That s how you should handle a breakup.
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Chapter 30  Stop dating him if&
Some women accept any old thing. They believe in good enough and the
story about the man they are with goes something like,  He s nice, but. A
smart woman believes in having the best. My dad recently said to me,
 Nicole, don t just accept any man and run into making a commitment. Put
him to the test and screen him!
When you re not sexually entangled in a relationship with a man, it will
make life so much easier if you need to break it off. When you leave him,
you won t be leaving residue of a bad decision to get it on with someone
who was Mr. Wrong. It s not difficult to figure out when you should stop
dating a man. He ll tell you who he is by the way he acts and I don t know
why it s so hard for us to believe the truth. Going around asking all of your
girlfriends for advice about what to do if he s mistreating you or searching
for answers on the Net is enough to tell you that he ain t for you. He will
show you what he s made of and this is why not getting serious with a man
too soon will benefit you.
A Smart Woman wants a man with good character and won t settle for his
personality and good looks. Take a look at the list below to see if your guy s
plainly giving you red flags. A good man is usually balanced in these main
categories: spiritual, mental, health, family, relationships, financial and his
career.
Stop dating him immediately if:
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" You ve been dating for more than a year and he hasn t had any
conversations with you (which should be his idea) about marrying
you. Men know what they want.
" You re living together and he stalls about marrying you. Arrange for
him to be gone for the day, rent yourself a ME haul truck and surprise
him by calling him from your own apartment.
" He does not celebrate you by buying romantic gifts for special
occasions or takes you out.
" He does not return your calls and calls you when it is convenient for
him.
" He excuses himself whenever he answers his phone.
" He shows signs that he does not respect you  look for whether he
values your opinion, attentive to your needs, verbal put downs, or just
plain insensitive.
" He tries to borrow money - never believe the,  forgot the credit card
story. This guy s a bum.
" He abuses cigarettes, alcohol or drugs (including over the counter
meds, steroids etc  trust me on this one.)
" He s had a criminal record - a man who has done time indicates that
he may still have serious issues with lack of respect and accountability
to authorities, the law and ultimately you.
" You find out that your core values are vastly different.
" He s well past 40 and never been married/had a successful
relationship.
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" He makes excuses about not showing up for dates.
" He does not want to pay for your first date - a man who truly wants
you won t mind because he wants to impress you.
" He acts withdrawn around you or starts telling you that he loves you
and it s only been a few months.
" Persistently makes excuses about not getting back to you: he
lost/forgot his cell phone, it fell in the tub, the dog ate it, aliens
abducted it etc.
" You begin to feel uncomfortable around him - there s something
about his energy that tells you in your gut,  What you see is not what
you re getting.
" He calls persistently: you feel uncomfortable about him contacting
you five times a day and he just doesn t get that he should stop.
" Acts differently when he s around you from his family/friends
" Pressures you to have sex or wants you to perform sexual acts.
" You find out that he s sleeping with other women while dating you.
" He has unresolved abuse in his family background: physical, sexual,
or emotional
" His family is grossly dysfunctional.
" He doesn t have a good relationship with his mother, father, siblings,
friends, co-workers
" He did not form a healthy attachment with his mother from birth.
This is critical. You want to find out about his maternal bonding as
quickly as possible. A man will not know how to love you if he
didn t bond with his birth mother or formed a maternal bond with a
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woman when he was a child. A healthy bond with a woman will
teach a man how to love and respect you.
" He s too much of a mama s boy.
" He does not have any positive male role models - this is also critical.
" He s not a man of his word
" He has/had major financial problems.
" He can t keep a steady job.
" He doesn t handle stress well - i.e., he s a Road Rager. Always
complains about his job/co-workers. It s always somebody else s
fault. Starts talking badly about his past relationships, girlfriend/wife.
" He talks as if he s the victim all of the time.
" He has no vision/goals/plans for the future or any interest outside
himself.
" He s not emotionally grounded: The world revolves around him; he
has massive ego issues and can never think about anyone else but
himself.
" Does not show empathy or compassion.
" He s not divorced or has been married more than two times.
" He s recently separated or broken up with his girlfriend.
" He s left his wife/girlfriend to be with you.
" He has unresolved issues with his wife/girlfriend. Things don t add
up. There s always conflict present.
" He tells you that his past relationship(s) was bad because of his EX.
" He gloats about other women to make you jealous.
" You find out he s cheating on his wife/girlfriend.
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" You find out that he mistreated women in his past relationships - if he
was a dog, he s still a dog.
" He s abandon his children including not wanting to see them and not
paying child support.
" You find out that he thinks more about wanting your relationship than
the emotional well being of his kids.
" He wants to introduce you to his children too soon into the
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